...So, you’re officiating a wedding!

How awesome for you! If you started the process of researching how to officiate a wedding ceremony and quickly felt overwhelmed, don’t worry. Offbeat Wed is here for you! From the secular to the molecular, handfastings to unity ceremonies, we've seen 'em all, and we're ready to help you write and officiate a unique wedding ceremony...

Alternative weddings industry leader Offbeat Wed teamed up with Life-Cycle Celebrant Jessie Blum to create this super-thorough informational guide for officiants.

Offbeat Wed (formerly Offbeat Bride) launched in late 2006 and has published 7000+ articles about alternative weddings. We're especially well known for our wide-ranging guidance on wedding ceremonies.

We've created this package to help you craft the perfect wedding ceremony...

Who’s this for?

This pack is made for wedding officiants who serve couples that don’t fit the mold—because love doesn’t either.

Whether you’re officiating your first queer wedding or your fiftieth non-traditional ceremony, this is for you. We created this for:

• LGBTQIA+ couples
• Queer, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and trans weddings
• Gender-neutral and nonbinary ceremonies
• Secular and spiritual-but-not-religious folks
• Polyamorous and open relationship structures
• Neurodivergent and disabled communities
• BIPOC-led ceremonies and multicultural mashups
• Older couples, second marriages, and chosen families
• Funny weddings, weird weddings, and “what even is tradition?” weddings

And of course, it’s for new officiants who are just getting started and want to make sure they’re doing it right for the kind of couples they actually care about.

What's included in this Pack:

Offbeat Officiant Guidebook (47-page PDF)

• Detailed guidance on how to officiate a wedding, from basic ritual theory, to ceremony structure, to how to write the script
• Advice on the random stuff that often falls to officiants like figuring out the order of the processional, and how to run a wedding rehearsal
• TONS of ritual ideas, complete with props and wording templates (including family rituals for second weddings)
• Inclusivity DOs and DONTs: how to make sure everyone at the wedding feels welcomed and included
• Vow-writing resources, including dozens of gender-neutral sample vows, ring exchange wording, and nontraditional alternatives to "the asking" part of the ceremony where folks say "I do"

Offbeat Wedding Ceremony Scripts & Templates (104-page .docx)

• 15 gender-neutral wedding script outlines, scripts, and templates, ready for you to customize with personalized information, or use as a base for completely writing your own ceremonies from scratch. 
• Easily edit in Microsoft Word, Google Docs, or your favorite text editing app. Just do a find-and-replace to drop in your couple's names, and you're good to go! (You wouldn't believe how many officiants copy scripts off the internet, and accidentally say the wrong couple's names!)
• Bonus: ring exchange templates and wording!

Offbeat Wed’s Engaged Couple’s Questionnaire (16-page PDF)

• Printable ceremony questionnaire to share with couples to help you collect valuable information and great stories to include in your ceremony script. 

Offbeat Wed’s Vow Writing Worksheet (29-page PDF)

• Printable "mad libs" style worksheet for couples, helping them write their own deeply personal wedding vows.

Whether you're a pro officiant who wants to up their game, or you've been tapped to officiate a friend or family member's wedding ceremony and you have no idea where to start, we're here to hold your hand and help you learn how to officiate a wedding ceremony with heart, depth, and humor...

LET'S DO THIS!